I didn't post yesterday because I really wasn't sure what I was feeling. Immediately upon hearing the news, Tuesday, I felt a wave of relief. Pure and utter relief. Relief that I would never ever have to think about trying to conceive, ovulation, IVF, pregnancy tests, waiting and wishing, all of it. Honestly, the only thing I can compare it to was the day I got my bar results, that feeling of being so done with something that you worked so hard for, and knowing that you would never EVER have to think about it again.
I began to notice yesterday that the feeling of relief was quickly being replaced by one of anxiety. Within minutes of sharing my news I received more than a few emails and texts from friends, who themselves were expecting, and who were waiting to share the wonderful news with me until I had some of my own to pass on. (Which by the way is amazingly considerate and something I never would have asked for, but greatly appreciate.) While this news made me so unbelievably excited, it also reminded me that there is no guarantee that this baby is going to make it through the long haul. All I can think about was what happened last time, when we went to hear the heartbeat at 10 weeks and there was nothing there. What if that happens again, and what if, just like last time, I'm the only one who doesn't have a baby in the end? I feel like we have come so far, but in reality we are only at the beginning. What if we have to start all over? These questions have driven me crazy the past 48 hours. I have been analyzing every twitch, pain, wondering if the fact that I am not sick (yes, I realize this doesn't usually happen yet) means that something is wrong. My stomach is so large from the progesterone, and I can't help but keep wondering if there really is a baby in there. Something which I ask my husband about 100 times a day (sorry babe.)
I realize that all of this is out of my control, but I am finding it really hard to turn off all of the noise in my head. I keep reminding myself that we had an almost perfect embryo put in, and that because it happened last time is no indication that it will happen again. I keep thinking of all the people I know who have had perfect and healthy pregnancies, and the fact that I have actually had a perfect and healthy pregnancy, and I know that there is no reason why anything will go wrong. That is what I keep telling myself, now I realize I just have to start believing it.
As anxious as I feel, I am comforted by the fact that this feeling will only last for the next few days/weeks. Tomorrow I am getting my blood drawn again and if the numbers (which were pretty high in the beginning) have doubled we have a good sign. I will do the same again on Monday, and about a week from then we should be able to schedule an ultrasound just to make sure that that little heart is beating as it should. I am going to try to go back to yoga this weekend, or swim, or do something to try to calm my mind.
I'm going to try to keep picturing myself at 40 weeks, and I know with just a little bit of luck we will get there...
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Just stay positive. I can imagine it would be so easy to drive yourself nuts, but try and focus on the good. Sending good thoughts your way as usual. :)
I try to imagine how you feel - such elation but also such worry. What to say? Keep the faith. There may be glitches along the way with this pregnancy but they might be just that; glitches. Could just as well be fine. Every chance it will be. Just gotta hang on. Have everything crossed for you. Lou x
I understand completely that anxiety that you feel. You want to let go of "last time" and the "what if" and relax, but there will always be a part of you that remembers the sadness and can't help but be afraid. I totally get it. Try to relax, try to enjoy what you've worked so hard to receive - YOU ARE PREGNANT. Right now. Today. And most likely for the next 35 weeks. Smile on that. Be happy.
I think the anxiety is normal for everyone. the nice thing is that you're going to be constantly monitored, get early u/s, etc, which no doubt will be reassuring.
The way you are feeling is totally understandable under the circumstances. I am sure it it simultaneously amazing and scary to experience and also share with others. Just remember, everyone is here for you for whatever the tomorrows bring. Stay positive and definitely enjoy the moment.
Focus on the joy of the moment. Relax, do some gentle yoga, and be kind to yourself. CONGRATULATIONS!
I'm sure no matter what anyone says you'll feel anxious.. my god how could you not after the journey you've been through to get here? I am offering up all my good vibes for you so that this happens. Try to relax and hang in there. A friend of mine has gone through something very similar and she's made it.. her little one is due just before Christmas.. it was tough trying not to worry but she got there in the end. As will you my love xxx
It's so hard not to worry, after having had a loss in the past. I got pregnant after IVF with identical twins (single embryo transfer- embryo split!) and was over the moon. I lost both babies at 11 weeks. I'm now currently 18w pregnant with fraternal twins, and have felt a great amount of anxiety throughout this pregnancy. I've worried myself sick that I'll lose these babies too.... But over time I've realized that every pregnancy is different and all I can do is hope for the best and stay positive. Worrying gets you nowhere. Congratulations and best of luck!
Hi keep believing all is well and it will all work out. It will be fine, just fine. I know, exactly how you feel, the anxiety sets in before you can relax, and you really never relax! but just keep on believing, you're doing great!
Believe me, i'm still just as anxious 6 months in!!! Just keep positive its all you can do :)
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