A Night To Sleep On It.

Monday, April 6, 2009

Given the disgusting attempts by some old (emphasis on the word old) colleagues of mine to run me out of bloggertown last week this Yummy Mummy spent the weekend deciding what I should do about this little blog of mine. I woke up on Sunday morning with the answer: ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. 

The bottom line is the following and this is the last I am going to mention of the whole thing. 
So what if I few hags I used to work with want to spend their entire day (and by day I mean from 9-4 when they actually are at work) bashing an Internet persona in a completely unprovoked attack. Further, so what if some Nastys from around town want to join in the "fun?" The bottom line is that there are always going to be mean girls and by me tucking my tail away and disappearing that isn't going to change anything. So I'm not. I thought about it but I'm not.

The whole thing reminded me of a study that we read back in my college days during freshman psychology. In this test there were two adjoining rooms that were set up. On one side a person was told that they were to anonymously shock the person on the other side. There would be no repercussion for their actions and the person would never know who was doing the shocking. Not so surprisingly no matter how loud the screams, the anonymous person just kept shocking away. It's a bit alarming, but we have seen this little study play itself out here. 

What is really ironic is that some of the people who left some pretty horrible comments on this blog actually work for a boss who has made it a pet project to protect kids from Internet bullies. I have to laugh when I think of what they would say of the show that was put on last week. I can't imagine that she would be pleased. On the other hand I would never hide this blog from a prospective employee. I am not ashamed or embarrassed about anything that I write here. My family and friends all read my blog and I know one day my son will too. While I never promoted it, I have also never tried to "hide" this blog from anyone which is how I imagine it got around my old workplace. 

I can only hope that these "women" don't have girls and don't raise them to be catty little bitches just like their mothers. On the other hand, maybe if they do have girls of their own and one day said child comes home crying because some girls trashed her all over her Facebook page, they will see the carnage that can be created by such ruthless attacks. I wonder what mama is going to say then? Do you think she would have the guts to tell them that this is the way the world works and that when the little ones are at school she too goes around trashing people? That this is how she spends taxpayer money while she is "busy at work?" Somehow I doubt it. 

What really struck me last week was not how mean people can be but rather how awesome strangers can be. I was pretty down on Thursday and Friday and your comments, emails, phone calls, and wall posts really really really really brightened my day. I had no idea that so many people would take the time out of their busy days and let me know that you were thinking of me. In the end the positive feedback far far far outweighed the few negative haters and that is the number one reason why I am keeping Yummy Mummy going. 

This blog is supposed to be fun. Pure and simple. This is not the Diary of (Insert My Name Here.) This is the Dairy of the Yummy Mummy. Yes, it is based on my life but this is only one dimension of my life. Therefore, it should not come as shocking to anyone that this blog is ONE DIMENSIONAL. It is what it claims to be. A diary of a mom who loves her son, loves Boston, loves living a city lifestyle, and likes fashion (the horror I know.) I have tried to create a fun environment where the things that make me smile are shown. I don't intend people to have a life changing experience when reading my posts. If you want political commentary read the Huffington Post or CNN. If you want to discuss the horrors going on around the world might I suggest the ICC's website or PHR? This is not, and will never be that place. Consider it blog lite. The US Weekly of the blog world. You don't pick up a Star magazine and find yourself shocked when you see celebrities, of a Vogue and pass out because there are expensive clothes featured, so don't be surprised when this blog is exactly what it claims to be. Fun.

There was much that was said about me being a "poser" and worshiping at the "alter of two hundred dollar jeans." For me that is completely misplaced. For me the point of this blog is not that I am an ego maniacal Yummy Mummy but that we all are Yummy Mummies (even those who have yet to jump on that baby train.) Sure I like high quality clothes, who doesn't, but the readers here know that I almost never pay full price for them. Those 200 dollar jeans? I get mine for 50 bucks at Gilt and I try to show everyone else how they can too. This blog often discusses cutting back more than it does vast consumerism, and beyond that it is really just about being a mom. A mum who doesn't want to lose her identity or former self just because she had a baby and spends her days chasing a toddler around the park. 

I know most of you get this and that is why you continue to read. This rant is more so for the few readers out there who really just read too damn much into this thing. The bottom line is that I don't think I'm better than anyone else. I have never portrayed that here and I never will. This is the dairy of the best parts of my life shown through an online persona. If you don't enjoy it, don't read it, and for those of you that do.....keep coming back because I'm not going anywhere.


P.S. My Husband wanted me to inform Anon that he is in fact an ass man and is not really looking for another woman to "maintain" no matter her breast size. He does, however, appreciate you looking out for him (insert snicker here.)

Oh....and just in case some of the Anons out there are looking to start up another comment war, you can be assured that I will be monitoring the comments here in the future and will only be publishing things as I see fit. That's the beauty of it being my blog and all.


27 comments :

Paula said...

Loved the response from your husband! My favorite line though is..."That is the beauty of it being my blog and all."

Good for you for not letting the "haters" win. I enjoy your blog for what it is...FUN and lighthearted entertainment.

Make it a fastastic day with LM! You both deserve it, each and everyday.

nshouston said...

You go girl!!

M said...

Good for you! I think your blog is wonderful, and let the haters be exactly that, haters. Like you said, there will always be mean girls, the only thing you can do is remain as fabulous as you are and do the thing that will bother them the most, ignore them.

Cali-Ally said...

Hear hear YM! I would be sad without your blog...because "that is the beauty of it [it's your] blog and all".

Happy Monday YM
xo calially

Angie said...

YAY! :)

Very well said, YM. I'm so glad you're not going anywhere, this is one of my fave daily blogs. Thank you!

Stacie Jean said...

Amen! Way to go! I'm so glad you aren't disappearing!

- Stacie jean

Yummy Mammy said...

Ohhhhhh, I think I got some of your "cast" offs. I got some really strange comments from annon that I'd never had before, very nasty ones too. Was very shocked as it didn't make sense and wasn't in context. Now I think I get it. But you know what, there is a great thing about it being your blog - DELETE :-)
Pay no notice and I wouldn't even given them the air time if I was you. Pathetic people with nothing else to do xx

Bex said...

you are adorable and i love this response!

so glad you aren't going anywhere -- i need someone to continually remind me that {SOMEDAY} i can still be hot when i become a momma!

that girl? said...

Way to go YM - I knew you wouldn't let a couple of bitter and twisted hags with nothing better to do, get you down! Onwards and upwards xx

The Missus said...

Yay! Good for you Yum! Don't take any crap from the hags!

valeria said...

BRAVA!
A good night's sleep brings good advice and you have written a PERFECT post. So you KNOW the Anon??!?!?
I like your blog and your LM is adorable. Your "diary" is freshly written, entartaining and FUN.
Ciao from Italy!

Julie Q said...

I remember i got one comment calling me boring, and it bugged me for about 2 days. I commend you for your courage to shake it off. Granted I wish bullies never got to anyone, but still, it hurts! You must keep up your blog, because I too will be a Yummy Mummy someday (not soon) and i love reading all your stories!

on a side note: the day i know i'm mature enough to have kids is the day i can get through an entire episode of TLC's A Baby Story.

Anonymous said...

Nicely done! So glad you're staying!

Anonymous said...

Yum, you're awesome. Keep it up.

Natasha said...

Hey YM! It's Natasha from Cali! :)You are a beautiful and intelligent woman with a beautiful family! These haters are just jealous and ignorant! Super glad that you are keeping your blog. I absolutely LOVE IT! :)

Miss Lady Finger said...

Well said Yum, and I applaud you for keeping your chin up and soldiering on. There will always be mean, hateful people in the world, and the worst thing you can do is let them get to you. Keep blogging YM, my day wouldn't be half as fun without you! xxx

Grams said...

So glad you decided to keep on blogging. I enjoy keeping up with you and your little man. I think the "mean girls" analogy is right on target. I'll share the words of wisdom that I've lived by for a long time, "Don't let the bastards get you down!"

Anonymous said...

I hope you are done defending yourself against them because they are not worth an ounce of your energy.

It's amazing how grown women can act like children and I would love to know what their boss would think of their activities being done while we the taxpayers are paying them to be at work. And I'm sure their boss would find the disparaging remarks they made about assistant district attorneys VERY INTERESTING. From the sound of them, they probably got their jobs based on who they know, not what they know.

Julie said...

Yum, I am so happy to read these 'conclusion' to your debacle, and I know 'whomever' would have no legitimate response to this, and will remained forever silenced and likely misreable. I look forward to reading about everything you write about :) and also, for you, baby dust, baby dust, baby dust(although I'd never heard this term before) I can't wait to be a loyal reader through that whole business.
Take care Yum!

Kim said...

I think your blog is great and am looking forward to continuing to read it! Even though your life is quite different from mine, I really like how you seem to find pleasure in small everyday things like making a meal or staying home with your LM. That love of life makes your blog a joy to read - I find your attitude very inspiring.

V. said...

I am very happy to hear that you are not disappearing. because i love love love reading your blog. and who cares about those haters there probably jealous cause you get more hits on you blog then any website that they are part of.

ChicagoGal said...

Glad that you're sticking around! And I agree with you, If I wanted to hear something about the economy or depressing I would just turn on the news! This post was beautifully written - well done!

Ps - Loved your husband's comment! ha!

Kristi said...

Yay Yummy Mummy! I'm glad you're not letting the Old Hags get you down or push you out!

Lety said...

Good for you! Mean people suck and they are, unfortunately, everywhere. You took the high road and I'm glad.

delia said...

I'll add my voice to the chorus of those of us who are glad that you're taking the high road and continuing on with your fun blog. As you mention in the post, this is but one dimension of your life. It's a little bit of light hearted fun in the middle of the day or week or whatever....it's not meant to be taken too seriously. I would love to enjoy the lifestyle that you do with your little family and it's obvious that anyone who has nasty stuff to say is just bitter and jealous. There are way too many people like that out in the world. Keep your chin up and keep giving us something to enjoy! (P.S. I stumbled upon your blog while researching Burberry trenches (which I bought, btw) and I'm de-lurking to say this because I thought the way you were being attacked was disgusting. As I said above, keep your chin up!)

Anonymous said...

I love your blog! Being a SAHM mom is the hardest job I did it for 6 months with twins this past year. I haven't read the negative comments you refer to but those must be jealous people thats all. Good luck with baby # 2 We ended up doing hormone injections and IUI to have the twins so it will happen for you too!

Anonymous said...

I read this blog pretty frequently but not much of late so I was curious about the comments last week. As a fellow mother and member of the bar, I can say that negotiating with a toddler full time is every bit as challenging as the adversarial relationships that play out in the courtroom. But no job is as important as the job of a mother. And finding happiness and fun in that role is a gift.....Now that my daughters are 10 and 13, I get the chance to advise them about how to deal with "mean girls" and keep their eyes on what really matters. I always tell my oldest (who is usually defending her BFF from these girls)...."Honey, be thankful you are not them! And be thankful you are not one of their "friends". You should really feel sorry for how obviously unhappy and jealous they are....." And it really is the truth! I enjoy your blog. Keep having fun with LM and posting fun stuff!